Most of us have been in a situation where we ended up being the focus of someone's joke. When this happens, are you uncomfortable or hurt? Do you run away and never show your face again? Of course not! There are better ways of handling an embarrassing situation and here are some of them:
Ignore the joke. Bullies are notorious for picking on people they think they can push around. These people are usually insecure and short on attention. To get it, they make fun of other people. The trick is to ignore these idiots. By not giving them the attention they crave, they start losing interest in you and move on to the next victim.
Joke back. If you're one of those rare individuals born with sharp wit, why not use it to your benefit? Give the bully a dose of their own medicine.
Just make sure your comeback is witty and delivered in style. This has two purposes. The first is to defend yourself. The second is to intimidate your attacker. If everyone laughs when you make your comeback, the bully will think twice about delivering another blow as he or she might come up short and become the butt of the joke.
Accept it. If you are supremely confident you can actually just laugh it off. Confident people can actually laugh at themselves without being embarrassed.
Look behind the joke. Perhaps understanding the reason the joke was made in the first place can give you insight to your opponent's feelings. Perhaps in a previous incident you hurt him or her unintentionally and the person is taking it out on you through a joke. In private, ask the person if there is anything wrong. You might be surprised by the answer.
Everyone needs the skills to handle themselves in situations that are disconcerting or even embarrassing. Remember, it's not what happened to you but how you handle it that counts.
Ignore the joke. Bullies are notorious for picking on people they think they can push around. These people are usually insecure and short on attention. To get it, they make fun of other people. The trick is to ignore these idiots. By not giving them the attention they crave, they start losing interest in you and move on to the next victim.
Joke back. If you're one of those rare individuals born with sharp wit, why not use it to your benefit? Give the bully a dose of their own medicine.
Just make sure your comeback is witty and delivered in style. This has two purposes. The first is to defend yourself. The second is to intimidate your attacker. If everyone laughs when you make your comeback, the bully will think twice about delivering another blow as he or she might come up short and become the butt of the joke.
Accept it. If you are supremely confident you can actually just laugh it off. Confident people can actually laugh at themselves without being embarrassed.
Look behind the joke. Perhaps understanding the reason the joke was made in the first place can give you insight to your opponent's feelings. Perhaps in a previous incident you hurt him or her unintentionally and the person is taking it out on you through a joke. In private, ask the person if there is anything wrong. You might be surprised by the answer.
Everyone needs the skills to handle themselves in situations that are disconcerting or even embarrassing. Remember, it's not what happened to you but how you handle it that counts.
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